I have an irrational hate of Mother’s Day now. I know it’s crazy, but there it is.
As we move into graduation season, I want to remind people
how asinine and thoughtless it is to hold graduations on Mother’s Day. Doing so takes a momentous, usually happy,
day and makes it an emotional cluster-fuck for many.
There are the motherless who are already dealing with not
having their mom with them on an important day.
Now, they have to have that loss compounded amidst all the Mother’s Day
celebrations. No mom at graduation or
Mother’s Day. Fabulous. Just twist that knife that is already
piercing my heart.
Then there are the children of divorce. I’ve listened to many a friend prepare with
dread to navigate the dreaded interplay of warring parents and awkward
step-parent interplay. I have often told
them that death seems easier to handle.
My mom is dead, which clearly sucks, but my family is my family. Too often, divorce just leaves the children –
even the adult children – squarely in the middle between a rock and hard
place. Throw Mother’s Day to the
graduation mix and uncomfortable does not begin to describe the
experience.
Someday, I hope that graduation celebrations become Mother’s
Day free. Let the kids breathe a little
easier.
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