Tuesday, May 21, 2013
Lunch Time Fun
Memory lane today, folks. Oldie but goodie. A little smile for when you open your boring can of soup and find something you didn't expect. Humming along as eat now, like my niece always does. Happiness all around. Kinda like alligators...
Thursday, May 9, 2013
Mother's Day Graduate
Twenty years ago today I graduate from college. It was a bittersweet day as I had imploded
after my mom’s death and was graduating 2 years late and by thread. And, it was Mother’s Day.
I have an irrational hate of Mother’s Day now. I know it’s crazy, but there it is.
As we move into graduation season, I want to remind people
how asinine and thoughtless it is to hold graduations on Mother’s Day. Doing so takes a momentous, usually happy,
day and makes it an emotional cluster-fuck for many.
There are the motherless who are already dealing with not
having their mom with them on an important day.
Now, they have to have that loss compounded amidst all the Mother’s Day
celebrations. No mom at graduation or
Mother’s Day. Fabulous. Just twist that knife that is already
piercing my heart.
Then there are the children of divorce. I’ve listened to many a friend prepare with
dread to navigate the dreaded interplay of warring parents and awkward
step-parent interplay. I have often told
them that death seems easier to handle.
My mom is dead, which clearly sucks, but my family is my family. Too often, divorce just leaves the children –
even the adult children – squarely in the middle between a rock and hard
place. Throw Mother’s Day to the
graduation mix and uncomfortable does not begin to describe the
experience.
Someday, I hope that graduation celebrations become Mother’s
Day free. Let the kids breathe a little
easier.
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